Monday, November 16, 2020

The Trauma of Pandemic Fatigue


Feel like getting out?  

A strong desire to forget about precautions?   

Travel to another place to escape?  

Just have some fun...  see friends...  get drunk...  forget it all?


You’re not the only one...  we all feel it...  low level depression...  isolation...  lack of social interactions... lack of physical touch...  loss of interest in hobbies...  pastimes...  life seems one dimensional...  dull...  no spark...  nothing to look forward to with a long winter ahead and the only light at the end of the tunnel is a vaccine available in the spring of next year...   ~sigh~

Does it help to know you’re not alone?  The world is once again facing a raging pandemic infecting in excess of 600,000 daily...  currently 55 million cases worldwide...   more than 1.3 million souls lost...  more than 11 million right here in the US...  with over 135,000 deaths.  

Of course we are overwhelmed...  frightened...  fatigued.  Our defense mechanisms... in an attempt to protect us from the devastation surrounding us...   gives us a false sense of security when we are with people we love and trust...  folks we see frequently...  “they couldn’t possibly get me sick”...  in our effort to deal with reality our defenses lie to us.   

This is the essence of pandemic fatigue.   Our cerebral cortex, usually capable of discerning truth from fiction, has left the party and we are in the hands of our old brain...  our reptilian brain...  the part of us that reacts to stress and trauma via fight, flight, or freeze.   Well...  the bad news is we can’t fight a virus with fisticuffs or verbal tirades...  we can’t flee... no where to go.  So, we freeze...  our feelings...  our sensibilities and our capacity for self care.  Just the opposite of what we need to do to survive.  

There is a way out...  reaching out to others...  we are all in the same boat...  talking with a counselor who can help...  pursuing simple tasks that require small effort for big rewards (baking bread)...  getting some fresh air and exercise by taking a walk (mask on!) or raking leaves...  volunteering to help others in a way safe for yourself...  journaling...  practicing gratitude...  remembering that this time will eventually pass and that others have survived pandemics before us...  and finally remembering that people we love depend on us to practice self care and stay safe so they can hug us when this is all over 😷💕

Wednesday, October 14, 2020

Stress, Fear, Isolation and Tools During a Pandemic

It’s been a long time since I have posted to this blog...  more than a year...  and what a year it has been.  

A mad election season coming to a close in just 20 days...  a pandemic that has killed over 205,000 Americans thus far... and is seemingly getting worse with no clear end in sight.  It feels as though reality has been turned upside down and inside out.

How do we practice self-care during times of great stress?  Tools become lifelines as we feel overwhelmed...  frightened...  lonely...  and stressed all at once.   Trying to fight the fear and stress can lead to an inability to function.  We are better served by making a plan to protect ourselves and those we love...  preparation is key.  Purchasing supplies for upcoming needs...  taking time for self care...  maintaining healthy eating habits...  getting much needed outdoor activity...  making sure we get sufficient rest.   All these areas of care are vital...  especially now.

Purchasing supplies for upcoming needs...   hand sanitizer...  disinfectant...  paper products...  masks...  dry food goods that store well...  medication supplies...  vitamins and minerals...  all these items stored carefully and safely decrease stress levels.

Taking time for self care...  daily showers or baths...  personal grooming...  wearing clean clothing...  socializing safely via video chat or phone conversations...   utilizing social media in helpful ways such as pursuing  hobbies or interests with a group of like minded individuals...  making fun videos to share with friends...  watching humorous films that provide comic relief...  engaging in hobbies that require significant engagement and concentration...  playing games with family members.

As an example...  during this pandemic I have set up and maintained a greenhouse...  a hobby I have enjoyed on a smaller scale for many years, that has blossomed into an avocation.  Beside the benefit of growing produce that we consume, the greenhouse has become an oasis of peace and calm where I can relax and enjoy away from the problems of the world.  

Each of us must find our own way during this time of crisis and stress...  some way to hold on to our unique gifts and translate them into a path forward... not just for ourselves...  but for humanity at large.  We all have something valuable we can contribute to making our world a better place...  we each must find our own piece of the puzzle that fits into the larger vision.



A single nasturtium flower in brilliant scarlett blooms in an unlikely place in mid October 2020 

Thursday, March 28, 2019

How Did We Get Here?

We are living in a time of great division in America.  We all wonder, “What is the root cause is for the extreme views on both side of the political spectrum?”  “How did we get here?”  On September 11, 2001 we were attacked.  In the aftermath of that attack we were one of the most united countries on earth… people supporting one another… giving generously to help… shedding tears together for the great loss we had sustained.  What happened during the intervening 18 years to divide us so? Could we possibly have forgotten how united we were?

A story I recently heard may help to enlighten.  Three people sit at a table.  One is extremely wealthy… a multi billionaire… one is a minority… one is a an average income earning white person.  In the center of the table there is a plate of cookies.  The billionaire takes all the cookies but one.  He then leans across the table and says to the two remaining folks, “That person who is different from you, is going to take the last cookie”.  The two remaining people then glare at each other effectively blaming one another for being the one to leave the other with nothing.  This is a picture of our current political and economic situation.

The United States is one of the wealthiest countries on this planet. We do not have a lack of natural resources or funding.  We are being deluded by the wealthy into believing that we must choose between taking care of our citizens or funding our military.  We are being told that we cannot afford Medicare, Social Security, Medicaid, money for education, funds for the disabled, adequate healthcare and much more. In truth we can afford it all.

We have been bullied and lied to by the wealthiest families in America to believe that there is a scarcity of funds when in reality, the wealthiest families merely want all the cookies. They have lied to us again and again. They have stolen from us in the form of economic policies that enrich the wealthy and steal from the poor and middle-class.  They have created a tax policy that allows the entitled and super wealthy to steal from the rest of the American citizens.

They have used hate and bigotry as tools to promote scarcity and division.  We do not have a scarcity problem in our country… we have a stealing problem in our country.  American citizens are subject to the whims of the super wealthy who purchase politicians and cable news outlets to promote their agenda.

This is not a problem on one side of the aisle or the other, one political party or the other… there are wealthy patrons on both sides who promote scarcity to achieve their agenda.  We have been sold a series of lies beginning with trickle down economics… deluding us into believing that the wealthy will share their money with the rest of us through their success in business, when they receive their breaks for business and personal income taxes.  I am certain that none of us actually believe that this is true.

I am an Amazon prime customer.  I love the convenience of shopping from home and receiving my goods within two days. I have no plans to cancel my prime account.  however, I am not deluded into believing that Jeff Bezos gave his employees a raise to $15 an hour because he got a break on his income taxes. He did it because he was shamed into it by press coverage.  I am not suggesting that Jeff Bezos is a bad person. He is at the moment, the wealthiest man in the world.  I don't feel that he should have to give up his money however, he should pay taxes above $50 million in wealth at a higher rate.  “For unto whomsoever much is given, of him shall be much required,".

The capitalistic system in America is a gift to those who have the genius and foresight to utilize it. That gift exists because we have balance. We are currently out of balance and need to rebalance our economic and social systems.  I have no desire to live in a communist or socialist country. Capitalism and democracy are my chosen forms of government. I do however, believe in a social safety net to keep the poorest among us living a decent quality of life.  No one in our country should live in abject poverty, or without access to quality health care, and no one in our country should be able to skirt the law and steal from the citizens of the United States without consequence.

To those wealthy families who believe that their power and privilege entitles them to step on the backs of the poor and middle class to achieve their ends I remind you that you are not royalty, and in the end even royalty fell to their knees when they ceased to protect those serfs who lived in their midst.  It is only a matter of time before people become disgusted with the lies and agendas brokered to them by politicians and cable news talking heads and take action to protect the economic and social values that created our great nation.

Using the politics of division, scarcity, bigotry and fear may work in the short run but the price it will extort in the long run will far outweigh any short term benefit.  The United States needs leaders who believe in the special nature of our country and are willing to defend its values against the super wealthy… “ for the love of money is the root of all evil…”

Saturday, June 30, 2018

Desensitization & Information Overload

What happens to us when we are overloaded with information…  the constant deluge of news during this political climate about topics ranging from nuclear war to human rights abuses chips away at our ability to process on a daily basis.

Some of us become desensitized and freeze our feelings due to the continuous overload of traumatic events.  Some of us become enraged and choose to lash out at those we once respected and admired.  Some of us choose to hide from the constant barrage and tune out as an act of self-preservation.  Some of us claim we no longer care or have faith that the political climate can improve...  and finally, some of us go along with political choices we once thought unimaginable to refrain from making waves.

Of course there are also those who act in ways to attempt to correct the myriad of issues that plague our country...  however...  with such vastly opposing views and animosity continually fed to us via media in all forms...  it has become difficult to tell where the truth actually lies.

How do we begin to help ourselves deal with this era of information overload without becoming numb or losing our ability to care?

We must practice self care...  discernment about accepting information from unreliable sources as fact... and learn to check our motives.

Are we adding to the fray just to be right?
Are we lashing out online where we can be relatively anonymous?
Are we losing our ability to see others viewpoints as possible?
Are we forgetting our manners when attempting civil discourse?
Are we forgetting that we are all capable of being wrong?

We must find a way to engage in civility once again and begin to see others as people...  rather than as  victims, persecutors or rescuers...

Wednesday, February 21, 2018

#ENOUGH

A veteran and a gun owner who knows much more about guns than I do shares his opinion. Hopefully his arguments and information can help any of you trying to sway people on gun control laws...

“In order to make educated arguments for gun control, it's important to actually know what you're proposing and use the right language. Otherwise, you'll just get completely shut down as "not knowing anything about guns" to people you're trying to convince. And if you don't know anything about guns, you can't really advocate for responsible gun policy.
AR15s are not the problem alone. Yes, it's the most popular military-style rifle, and it is designed to kill people effectively. But banning one model of weapon will just make people switch to other, equally effective killing machines. If you banned the Toyota Camry, would people stop buying midsize sedans? No, you'd just end up with more Honda Accords on the road. If you want to fix the problem, you have to ban all semi-automatic rifles. Semi-automatic means the weapon is loaded with a magazine (or belt in some cases) with multiple rounds; and for every trigger squeeze, one bullet is discharged. 
There is no real need for these weapons in civilian use. They aren't necessary for hunting, where the point is to kill the animal with one shot. It is only useful for killing a lot of things in a short amount of time or having fun at a gun range. I think our children's lives are more important than a fraction of the population's fun shooting a bunch of rounds quickly at a range. They'll cope.
Handguns are far more responsible for gun deaths in America than semi-auto rifles. You mentioned the kid who brought a gun to school as only having a "handgun, not a semi-automatic." Well, almost all handguns are semi-automatic. They have magazines and one bullet per trigger squeeze. Though most handgun rounds aren't as deadly as rifle rounds, it's inconsequential at short range. And handguns are far easier to conceal than a rifle. With the exception of maybe revolvers (which have 5-6 round max before reloading), I believe handguns should be outlawed. The Virginia Tech massacre, the most deadly school shooting in American history, was accomplished with handguns only. Don't underestimate their lethality. I think military style rifles only account for about 2% of gun deaths each year. If you want to solve the problem, semi-auto handguns have to go, as well. 
If we really want to make a difference in gun deaths, we need to do WAY more than universal background checks and better mental health screening. Banning all semi-automatic weapons would make that difference. Keeping shotguns, revolvers, and bolt-action rifles legal accomplish all the typical, common uses of guns. (Bolt-action rifles are typical hunting rifles that you have to reload between shots.) With these types of firearms legal, you can still hunt, defend your home, and compete in sport shooting. 

Combine the following with the semi-auto ban.
Government buy-back program of all semi-automatic weapons. Once a grace period for turn-ins ends, possession will be a felony without a special (and rare) license for Federally approved dealers and collectors.
Gun licenses for all who want to continue to own approved firearms. Licenses will be granted by completing a comprehensive background check, psych evaluation, safety training, marksmanship training, and meeting strict storage requirements. Storage requirements would include safes, weapons unloaded, with ammo stored separately. Licenses expire after a certain number of years and all the requirements must be completed again for license renewal.
Registration of all firearms.
Insurance for all firearms. If your gun is used in a crime or if there's a accident with your gun, your insurance company is liable for damages. Let the insurance market set rates based on their analysis of risk. Then, people can decide if it's financially worth it to own a gun.
Finally, here's your counterarguments for the most common pro-gun arguments:
Pro-gun argument - assault weapons aren't an actual thing. Banning them won't make a difference.
Counterargument - none. This is true. Classifying a gun as an "assault weapon" is something people who know nothing about guns do. Having a bayonet stud (a place to mount a bayonet) used to be one way to classify a gun as an assault weapon. Last I checked, we don't have a bayonet problem in this country. Talk about banning semi-auto guns instead of made-up things like "assault weapons."
Pro-gun argument - 2nd Amendment guarantees my right to bear arms!
Counterargument - sure, it does, but there can be limitations. And in case anyone needs a history lesson, the individual right to bear arms has only existed since 2008. From the adoption of the Constitution until the DC v. Heller decision in 2008, the 2nd Amendment had never been interpreted to mean private citizens have a right to own guns. (Thanks, Scalia.) But that decision is now the law of the land and precedent for future court decisions. Nevertheless, even in Scalia's majority opinion, he asserts that there are limitations to the 2nd Amendment. Weapons allowed should be those in common use at the time. And limitations should be made on "dangerous and unusual" weapons, per previous precedent in United States v. Miller. I argue that semi-auto firearms should now be considered "dangerous and unusual," given their lethality.
Pro-gun argument - if law-abiding citizens get rid of their guns, criminals won't follow the law, and we'll be in more danger.
Counterargument - this is an argument against having laws. Since criminals don't follow the law, there should be no limits on anything. Also, when we do outlaw things, it can work. Purchases of large quantities of ammonium nitrate fertilizer was restricted after the Oklahoma City bombing, and there hasn't been a similar bombing since. We outlawed fully automatic weapons, grenades, rocket launchers, etc. in the 20th century, and what has happened? We don't see violence with those types of weapons. Most weapons used to commit crimes are purchased lawfully. If we change the laws, it will work to reduce gun deaths.
Pro-gun argument - if we ban guns, people will just use knives or baseball bats
Counterargument - there are plenty of incidents around the world of mass stabbings or clubbings, etc. Show me one that is as lethal as a mass shooting.
Pro-gun argument - we need armed security guards in every school
Counterargument - do you trust the security guard won't become a mass shooter? The Texas church shooter was an Air Force veteran. The Pulse nightclub shooter was a security guard. Further, it's relatively easy to get the drop on a security guard. Shoot him first when he's not expecting, then keep going. That's what the Pulse nightclub shooter did. It's not difficult if you draw first. Columbine had armed security, too. Adding more guns to schools adds more risk, it doesn't reduce it.
Pro-gun argument - it's a mental health issue, not a gun issue *or* guns don't kill people, people kill people
Counterargument - The United States has the same rates of mental illness as other developed Western countries, but we're the only ones with this type of violence. The mentally ill are actually less likely to commit crime than those who aren't mentally ill, which many find surprising. Also, those who are mentally ill are more likely to become the victim of a crime than those who don't have mental illness. It's a common refrain to hear "anyone who would do that must be crazy." That's not true. Being a murderer doesn't actually mean you are mentally ill, which is why you hardly ever see successful insanity defenses in trials. And if "people kill people," then we really should stop giving all these people guns, right? We don't allow private F-22s or nuclear weapons, do we? Why? Because people would use them to kill other people. People use people-killing machines to kill people. Go figure.
Pro-gun argument - We, as a society, have turned our backs on God. This is why crime is getting worse. We need God/Jesus to heal people's hearts, not get rid of law-abiding citizens' guns.
Counterargument - Crime has actually decreased overall in recent decades. Things are getting better, not worse. Murder rates and violent crime overall have trended down as we've advanced as a society. Mass shootings have remained steady, though, because angry people have easy access to guns.
Pro-gun argument - we need guns to fight against the government in case it becomes tyrannical.
Counterargument - I doubt semi-automatic weapons will defeat a tyrannical government with fighter jets, bombers, tanks, artillery, drones, advanced cyber capabilities, and nuclear weapons.
Pro-gun argument - gun registrations will make it easier for the government to disarm us
Counterargument - The registration is necessary to keep track of deadly weapons in case they are used in a crime, or in case a law-abiding citizen commits a crime that revokes their right to guns. There's over 300 million privately owned guns in America. If the government wanted to take everyone's guns, they'd do it the same way they would if there wasn't a registry: by going door to door and searching everyone.
I truly believe we need to do far more than anything advocated by most mainstream gun control organizations like Everytown and Moms Demand Action. We need to follow the lead of countries like the UK, Australia, and Canada. They've figured it out. Why can't we?”

Sunday, February 11, 2018

Mere Allegations

On Saturday, February 10, 2018, President Trump tweeted the following:

“People’s lives are being shattered and destroyed by a mere allegation.  Some are true and some or false. Some are old and some are new. There is no recovery for someone falsely accused life and career are gone. Is there no such thing any longer as due process?”

I would like to respond Mr. Trump:  The victims who were abused had their lives shattered when the incident occurred.  Domestic violence in any form is destructive, painful, terrifying and shaming. There is no short term recovery for the victim… any illusion of safety in relationships is permanently destroyed.  Further, the failure of others to believe the victim compounds the pain and suffering.  The victims relationship and life are gone.  Often times their career is gone as well because performance is affected by abuse.  Due process has been lacking for generations.  The time has come for those who perpetrate domestic violence to finally face consequences… their victims have been facing consequences for years.

Monday, January 22, 2018

WOMEN

WOMEN...
Why do women feel the need to speak out… to resist?
What does it mean…  resist… the Dictionary defines resist as, “ withstand,  combat,  weather,  endure…”
What is it that we feel we need to resist?
We are your women… it is our special abilities that define us… we are the ones who make life more than an endurance challenge… we are the ones who soften the rough edges of living… who allow for the continuation of our species… we are the ones you turn to when you hurt… when you need support… when you are sick… when you are alone… we are the nurturers of our society…
Why do you continue to try to limit us?
Why do you fear us?
Why do you continue to treat us as less than yourselves?
Without us your lives would be meaningless.  All of your competition…  your success would mean nothing without our support and appreciation. Without our continuing applause how would you celebrate your victories?
And yet… your continued efforts to attempt to marginalize us is confusing…  all we have ever wanted is to be at your side… a respected equal... rather than being forced to stand behind you as a second class citizen.
We ask nothing more from you then that which you would confirm upon a best friend… dignity… respect… and equality...
For the truth is… we are truly your best friend...